Ok, so one of my fiance's groomsmen (and his wife) would like to invite a few people that my fiance and I know casually. He said he thinks it would be the right thing to do since we have all hung out on occasions but I should also mention that we are not close in fact I would consider them his friends not ours. If we add these people it won't cost too much more but we barely know them. I asked my fiance about it and he said he would pay the extra for them but doesn't really care if they come or not. I am not going to ask my fiance to pay for them and we are on a very tight budget. My fiance really doesn't want to upset his friend. What should I do? Should I talk to the groomsmen?
Wow! This is definitely a tough one or is it?! Hmmm, I think since this is not just some informal get together it is ok to say no this time. I would say something like this to your fiance's groomsmen, "Bob, we absolutely adore the Smiths and the Hunters but unfortunately we are on a very tight budget and as it is we have already had to cut close (empasis on the CLOSE) family and friends from the guest list. After the wedding we are planning to host a BBQ with a few friends and we would love to include them. I hope you understand our predicament." I think most people understand how expensive weddings are these days and unfortunately you can't always include everyone.
In the words of good ole Honest Abe, “You can please some of the people all of the time, you can please all of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all of the people all of the time”.