Cash Bar?

Today's wedding question comes to us from Pam in Portland; Pam asks, "is it ok to have a cash bar at our reception if we are having a big wedding but don't have the money to provide for everyone?"

Great question, Pam!  This is actually a pretty common question and we say while it is often necessary to find ways to cut costs, a cash bar is never a good choice. When you have a wedding, you're inviting people to a party, and they shouldn't have to pay for anything while they're there. There are some occasions where you can have friends contribute to your party...a potluck, a BBQ or a weekly poker night or girl's night out but it's not really the same at a formal event. There are a number of ways to try and save money on the alcohol itself. 

One way to save money on drinks is to consider having a "limited" bar. Serve only soda, beer, and wine or have a champagne toast. Some couples have a signature wedding cocktail, which cuts down on the different liquors and ingredients you'll be purchasing. Also, confirm whether you have to buy your alcohol from the place where the wedding reception will be. You may have signed a contract that says so, but if not, it's generally much cheaper to buy your own liquor, wholesale -you can get more for your money, and get what you want.

Comments

[Michelle]

And for the love of all things wedding, PLEASE tell your guests if you are having one despite the good advice offered above. My cousin and his wife didn't and people were scrambling to find an ATM near the reception site. It was not a good scene.

[Amber]

I couldn't agree more. We would never do this at a dinner party, sell drinks. It is very inappropriate at a wedding when guests have already given a gift, possibly traveled, paid for child care, etc..
If the budget is tight then don't have liquor, or limit what you offer. Another option in spring or summer is a sangria or spritzer. Far less cost and very fun and festive.
You are asking people to celebrate your marriage with you, that is what is most important. People forget that a wedding reception has only lately become such a huge affair and competition. Years ago I went to many receptions that consisted of cake, punch and coffee total. The wedding still happened without a bar.
Savor your wedding, don't stress about keeping up with the Jones'es.

[Wedding headpieces]

Good points made here, I am sure that this has been make or break for quite a few wedding couples! I would vote no cash bar as well...

[Designer Handbags]

I agree "No Cash Bar". Your friends are there to celebrate with you this wonderful event in your life. They know you and know what you can afford. Punch, cake, nuts and coffee is sufficient if that is all you can afford. Don't start out your life journey together in debt.